Curious George was right. No monkey business.

Image of a monkey holding a sign that reads "Curious George was right. No monkey business."

Curious George was right.

We should all take a page from George’s curiosity playbook and start showing more interest in others.

Why?

People find us interesting when we are interested in them.

Think about the last time you met someone in a social setting and they asked you zero questions. Instead, they droned on like a ceiling fan with no off switch, rambling about themselves the whole time.

Your started to get dizzy from excessive nodding. Your mouth started to hurt from the forced smile plastered on your face. You probably thought, “Wow, that person was lame. Self-involved. And not someone I’m going to remember for much longer.”

Why is it that the more someone talks, the less you remember?

Because we’re so vain. We probably think this song is about us.

(I cannot think of that song without thinking of How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days. Best rom-com of all time — IYKYK.)

We are all vain. We love ourselves and we especially love talking about ourselves.

But if we’re doing all the blabbering and none of the question-asking? If we don’t ask any questions about the person standing in front of us?

Then we aren’t being curious.

And when we lose our curiosity, we lose our ability to be remembered.

Doesn’t that sound backward? Shouldn’t we be telling OUR story in order to be memorable? Well, yes to an extent.

But conversations are a two-way street.

Or at least they should be.

It’s impossible to have a genuine connection with someone if they can’t get a word in edgewise. The give and take of a real conversation — asking questions, listening to responses, offering observations — is what builds relationships.

So instead of being self-involved and dominating the conversation…

Ask a question or two.
Listen.
Follow up question.
Remark how you can relate or how you’re different.
Then ask another one.
Listen.
Follow up.
Rinse.
Repeat.

When you make the other person the star, then they walk away thinking you’re a star.

So be a little bit more curious about the person sitting across from you.

What do they care about? What are their dreams? What’s holding them back? How can you help? How can you better understand?

If you ask and listen, then your curiosity might take you somewhere remarkable, just like our friend George.

Then you can tell your story without any monkey business.